June School Holiday

This holiday had been quiet yet meaningful, to be honest i’m worried and concern how am i going to entertain Chloe for the whole month with my heavy bump. Thanks God all turn out good and i truly grateful for this period that i get to spend 1 to 1 time 24/7 with her before second one come to join us. Of course there’s days that i wish i get a few hour time off especially she wake up wrong side of the bed or being extra sensitive over small things and doesn’t follow instruction. I learn that most kid’s tantrums are mostly because the lack of patience from us parents and i also learn to observe her more before i jump into a conclusion or try to correct her. We both learn to be better this holiday.

Every morning she will wake me up in my room, joined me on bed for some cuddle time. Then we depart separately to wash up then proceed to make our own bed, at the beginning of the holiday she still doesn’t had this habit of making her bed but after looking at me doing for some times she volunteered to do hers and continue doing it for the rest of the days. After that we had our breakfast at her favorite spot – our new kitchen counter! and brief chat what we going to do for the rest of the day. Usually followed by outdoor time at the playground, i love how she interact with new kids she would observe them from far then slowly approach them and they started play just like that regardless of ages, but sadly most of the time the playground is empty well maybe our timing is odd.

Then we went home for home for table activities, the first week we learn about how flower/plant grow then we let her plant some seed and watches how the seed grow each days, she love it so much every morning she would check on them and shout excitedly how much the bean spout had grown. After a week lesson on this topic she can memorize what elements a plant required to grow. Vivian Aunty was very kind to send a caterpillar to Chloe for her to learn about the life cycle of a butterfly.

Second week we learnt about seasons and weathers, i really love Usborne books very detailed, nicely illustrated and interactive too especially for those lift-the-flat series. We had some rain play and puddles jumping because we only had raining season here in but i manage to gather photos of her in different season when we went travel for her to look at it for better understanding.

Third week we focus on reading for Chloe, i remember this beginning of the year i’m still worried why she doesn’t show interest in reading yet although her school did teach them phonics and wonder should i sent her to some additional phonics class as she love books rather than just looking at the pictures it will be more fun reading the words. So we read our trusty Peter and Jane series throughout this week, and to my surprise she catch up and started reading by herself and learning new words everyday. We are now proceed to book 3a i can see she find satisfaction when she get to read it on her own and force us to read P&J even for bedtime stories which me and Ming had no choice but follow her request.

Other than lessons and activities there’s a lot of free play, puzzle solving, play pretend that she initialed while i rest and watching her play on her own, we had a 2 play dates with friends coming over so she got some company to play with. On daily basis she would help me in the kitchen for our lunch and sometimes dinner if she feel bored playing with her toy she would come and offer for helps. She love helping int the kitchen with washing, chopping and a lot of kepoing, she’s doesn’t see it as a help or work for now but something fun to play i hope this continue for a long long time. My me time will always when she take her afternoon nap or when daddy come home at night.

Last week time passed real quick, this week i feel confident of bringing her out myself so we went National gallery, then on Friday meet daddy for Children festival at GBB. We also watched 2 movies during the school holiday which is Aladdin and Toy Story 4, this girl starting to enjoy cinema time maybe because that’s the only time she got her screen time. I personally love Love Story 4 story line very much recommend to all family with kids to watch it together. Our pastor shared this article The Charming Gravity of ‘Toy Story 4’ biblical view on this movie and a very good way to share it to our kids after watching the movie!

Misbehave

Also try to correct her after few days observing her misbehavior, she’s not all good she’s a child and a sinner too. She suddenly got this bad habit when things doesn’t goes her way she would try to hit/push (not hard but light kind) us. She did that a lot to daddy maybe to her daddy can be bully, so when she did that to me one day before nap time, i drag her to the naughty corner of course she refused and struggled then i give her time up in the study room she cried and protest. After few mins she calm down and i asked her again to sit at the naughty chair she followed then we had a chat while explained to her what is wrong and correct thing to do to let out her anger and hug to end the episode. She haven’t repeat it since then i asked her to let her frustration by voicing it out while crossing her hand instead of using her hand to touch people.

Overall it’s a good break from school i hope we keep up this tradition every holiday, other than play we gain and learned something. I think that’s the biggest improvement for Chloe this holiday is to able to read and recognized more words also to able to fix a 105 puzzle without any help too. Now school resume i can have my leisure life back! While for me i learnt to be more present with less screen time when i’m with her everyday.

Chloe the slow eater

I should appreciate this space more, as i really enjoy reading back what i noted down over the years. I’m surprise i still get comments on and off from those who are reading tell me they enjoy reading what i written here or as me question on things that i mentioned, i thought this space is haunted long time ago that’s why i feel free and open to share my thoughts then any social media platform.

These days i stop posting anything in IG for some reason i choose to be quiet (there’s always this season of my life) get rid of all this influences from social media sometimes is a good detox. So basically i only interact with friends who care to text me personally get updates of each other on and off, that’s the real friendship i appreciate although my friend can count with one hand but as i grow older quality of friends over quantity.

Back to my little girl, recently i feel Chloe rather slow on eating meals and drinking her milk maybe that’s why she’s petite. Which sometimes can be very frustrating to us especially in the morning weird thing is she can finish her milk faster at night before sleep but not in the morning. Daddy who’s the one to bring her to school every morning got really stress up when she’s gonna be late for sure he is going to be late at work too. She’s on the smaller side so doctor say continue with her formula if not we should’ve abandon this milk thingy long ago. Luckily she go to school to have her breakfast if not it will take forever to leave the house.

We try to not rush her so much by waking her up earlier so she can slowly finish up her milk and leisurely walk to school. She is good in general but this eating and drinking is really something she need to improve. I always have meals with her we talked about school and everything while eating, when i’m done i used to wait for her to finish up her food which resulting meal time dragged way too long and i can be very impatient sometimes by feeding her or keep reminding her to eat up. So now i resorted that i should left the dining table by informing her once i finish my food i will left her concentrate on hers (luckily she never left her highchair before her bowl is empty if not that would be another set of problem), which works! she finished her food faster now (not very fast but at least faster) and proudly come to me showing her empty bowl. Finger crossed this works forever!

Ming’s and my parent commented both of us are not food lover since young hence our size so don’t expect Chloe to like food too. But i think that’s not the case is the mindset and the result of tradition weaning method that increase the picky eating behaviors, i am going to try BLW for sure for my next kid hopefully he/she will be more likely to develop positive interest in food and enjoy eating.

Chloe’s Room

Finally got down to write this i know i promise many in ig for house tour but after moving in for 3 months, i really got lazy and no motivation to take any video or photos. Finally last week Chloe was asking me to take some of her photos (vain right? my daughter) since she’s at it must as well took so photos of her room.

Chloe’s room was previously a maid room with attached storeroom, we hack away the storeroom (which cause quite a lot of trouble PE, HDB inspection and all) but no regret it’s all worthy because she now have the biggest room in the house. Spacious enough to put in her toys so my living room look less clutter and colorful. We go with very simple finishing pale dusty pink paint for the feature wall with slim shelving that our carpenter generously do it FOC for us enhance it with a pastel pendant light then the rest of the wall is plain white and light wooden vinyl flooring.

Basically we didn’t add any furniture for her except a build-in wardrobe that would probably last her till she married? (too ambitious?) I want this room to grow with her so loose furniture that can easy move around or removed would be best option.

She spent a lot of time in her room maybe more than i do in my room so i guess a comfy and spacious place for her is important. Weird thing is that i seldom need to help tidy up her room, she will keep her things in place instead of scatter things around the floor. I’m quite happy with that at least she take care of her own belonging. Now she’s getting more and more independent young i started her take ownership of small tiny tasks — however small — as it helps them understand the importance of being independent, i don’t do everything for her because i’m not her maid. She need to learn that she’s part of this family so this house belong to her too, so the sense of belonging to this family is important for her to learn to also be responsible of everything related to this household.

Chloe is quite used to her routine. Everyday she come home from school, she will unpack her bag pass me her snacks box and bottle proceed to put her socks and outerwear to laundry bag then wash her hand without me telling her. After shower she will put on clothes herself walk out her room hang her wet towel and collect her dirty clothes to the laundry bag! She goes toilet herself without me helping or step in the toilet from sitting on the wc, flush the water then wash her hand. When it’s nap time she walked in her room draw her curtains climb on bed put on blanket all i need to do is hold her hand say good night darling left the room with few more words then close the door. Every night she have to clean up the mess she made eg tidying up her book in the living room before bed, basically she is in charge of her own things my job is to cook for her and make sure she’s fed. So far she will do things without complains or being asked to, even her grandparents are impressed when they saw these during their visit. Of course there’s still a lot more for her to learn, and we will do it together.

I always get a lot of comments from aunties and friends asking me why don’t we send her to childcare? she will be more independent! i usually keep quiet or change topic. Teaching kids to be independent isn’t it parent’s job? not because they are force to do so because of that environment but learning from heart how to take care of themselves and their belonging with parent’s guidance. I wish her become more independent in these basic areas of living, but still depend on me for love, protection, guidance, and support.