Finally got down to write this i know i promise many in ig for house tour but after moving in for 3 months, i really got lazy and no motivation to take any video or photos. Finally last week Chloe was asking me to take some of her photos (vain right? my daughter) since she’s at it must as well took so photos of her room.
Chloe’s room was previously a maid room with attached storeroom, we hack away the storeroom (which cause quite a lot of trouble PE, HDB inspection and all) but no regret it’s all worthy because she now have the biggest room in the house. Spacious enough to put in her toys so my living room look less clutter and colorful. We go with very simple finishing pale dusty pink paint for the feature wall with slim shelving that our carpenter generously do it FOC for us enhance it with a pastel pendant light then the rest of the wall is plain white and light wooden vinyl flooring.
Basically we didn’t add any furniture for her except a build-in wardrobe that would probably last her till she married? (too ambitious?) I want this room to grow with her so loose furniture that can easy move around or removed would be best option.
She spent a lot of time in her room maybe more than i do in my room so i guess a comfy and spacious place for her is important. Weird thing is that i seldom need to help tidy up her room, she will keep her things in place instead of scatter things around the floor. I’m quite happy with that at least she take care of her own belonging. Now she’s getting more and more independent young i started her take ownership of small tiny tasks — however small — as it helps them understand the importance of being independent, i don’t do everything for her because i’m not her maid. She need to learn that she’s part of this family so this house belong to her too, so the sense of belonging to this family is important for her to learn to also be responsible of everything related to this household.
Chloe is quite used to her routine. Everyday she come home from school, she will unpack her bag pass me her snacks box and bottle proceed to put her socks and outerwear to laundry bag then wash her hand without me telling her. After shower she will put on clothes herself walk out her room hang her wet towel and collect her dirty clothes to the laundry bag! She goes toilet herself without me helping or step in the toilet from sitting on the wc, flush the water then wash her hand. When it’s nap time she walked in her room draw her curtains climb on bed put on blanket all i need to do is hold her hand say good night darling left the room with few more words then close the door. Every night she have to clean up the mess she made eg tidying up her book in the living room before bed, basically she is in charge of her own things my job is to cook for her and make sure she’s fed. So far she will do things without complains or being asked to, even her grandparents are impressed when they saw these during their visit. Of course there’s still a lot more for her to learn, and we will do it together.
I always get a lot of comments from aunties and friends asking me why don’t we send her to childcare? she will be more independent! i usually keep quiet or change topic. Teaching kids to be independent isn’t it parent’s job? not because they are force to do so because of that environment but learning from heart how to take care of themselves and their belonging with parent’s guidance. I wish her become more independent in these basic areas of living, but still depend on me for love, protection, guidance, and support.