A year older

a nice bouquet delivered on my door step no prize guessing it’s from Ming
i usually don’t get such a nice bunch so i must take more photos of it before it dry up.
for passed years Ming will always buy from his trusted florist below his office building reason being convenient and no delivery fees required
Or if he had a choice he will never buy me a flower because he is practical like that but he did after we had Chloe
i think that’s his way of appreciation for me as a wife and a mom
 he also brought something from my-never-up-to-dated wishlist i created last year
but luckily still something i want till now..Fresh face cream
too expensive to buy myself
thanks dear you’re sweetest. always caring. always there for us
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As a mother

 

Motherhood isn’t all about shaping her characters but shaping mine too along the way –source

i’m totally agree with that there’s so much to learn being a mother it’s a life time work. So far I never regretted being stay home mum because very minutes spend with Chloe is worthy! I’m thankful to be part of her early childhood so I can help a little on shaping her personality and guide her with God’s word. Maybe I’m always there and only me she a little too shy or maybe me and daddy are introvert that’s why she is totally an introvert girl. She’s very shy, take time to warm up to stranger but I think that’s okie as she’s a girl and the bright side of an introvert she is very sensitive over people and environment also an observant. I’m would say I know her best and understand all her baby language at this stage.. and I want to continue watch her grow!

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For me myself
i decided to let go #dayre completely because i feel it taken up too much time
Curating a post, reply comments, reading others, it take a lot of time which i should really spend that time with Chloe or do my job then looking or checking the phone so often. i remember a friend asked me that i’m slowly gaining readers there in dayre and sponsorship don’t i feel wasted? i never want to be influencer or blogger just simply sharing my life and i feel stressful with so many people reading my life or dealing with business for sponsorship worrying the traffic and all.. This happen often i started with kiminpink.com (blogspot) then instagram then dayre.. i’m simply do not enjoy life being someone known..
While ig stories are faster way to record moments and share it with my family and friends. Yesterday I finally took some time to filter my follower and removed 100+ unknown accounts soon I will just limit to my friends and family so i feel safer to that platform

i may be going back to dayre in future maybe after Chloe go to school or if i’m pregnant again to record my pregnancy journey who knows maybe i will never return… another things that turn me off from sharing is that people tend to copy ideas, content and photos without crediting, they got influenced or inspired then copy and paste it like their own without credit, taking things for granted.

As a designer I really can’t stand this sorry to say ..but Ming always remind me once I want to share it in public be prepare for this..

Okie gone too far off the topic by the way I don’t share great stuff or thoughts I’m not even a good person too..but I can’t control what people think only thing I should do is be true to myself and always remind myself that:
It is the Lord your God you must follow, and him you must revere. Keep his commands and obey him; serve him and hold fast to him. Deuteronomy 13:4
Don’t follow the world but Jesus and He should be the center of my life and always glorify Him in anything i do..

9 Home activities for toddlers

quoted from Maria Montessori
I really wish Chloe can learning through play, so she can enjoy learning and the process 
she is such a sticky bug sometimes i need her to occupied with things so i could do my house chores and cooking so these activities come in handy 
then i started to google and pinterest for toddler activities ideas thanks to those mama who share theirs so i can follow and improvise to my own version that suit to Chloe age, personality and things she likes! Hope this post help you to keep your toddler busy too…
Materials needed: Assorted beans
What to do: Draw 4 circle on a paper or use different container place one type of beans in each circle or container then mix up the rest of the beans teach your toddler to sort them according to shape and color of the beans! 
Skills learned: Sustained attention, sensory processing, learning how differentiate colors and textures of the ingredient  
Suitable age: As long as your toddler do not simply put stuff in to their mouth need monitoring
Occupied Chloe for: 15 minutes 
 Materials needed: Toilet paper or kitchen tower roll, wrapping paper and pompom from Daiso
What to do: Wrapped the roll with wrapper paper stick it to the wall place a container below. Demo to your toddler how the pom pom fall from the top of the tube to the basket.
Skills learned: Grow motor skill, Understanding directions and coordination
Suitable age: any! 
Occupied Chloe for: 5 minutes 
  Materials needed: Bathtub, Non-toxic Waterbeads from Tickle your senses and some random toys for waterplay
What to do: Soaked your beads beforehand and throw everything in to the filled bathtub. let them pick up the beads into the container and play freely sometimes i will throw some alphabet in for her to find them in the water and ask for some of those she can recognize 
Skills learned: Sensory awareness, muscle strength and listen to instruction
Suitable age: any! but supervision is required
Occupied Chloe for: forever! haha 
 Materials needed: Pompom from Daiso, colorful cup or container with some tools like spoon, scoop or tweezer 
What to do: Mix colorful pompom and teach her sort them accordingly to colors i used different tools everytime i think tweezer is the best that can train her fine motor skill
Skills learned: Motor skill, color knowing and focusing
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for: 20 minutes 
  Materials needed: Big piece of paper i use manjong paper here, faber castell washable marker
What to do: Draw some items that your child love on the paper and get her to name it then let her draw freely on the paper 
Skills learned: Motor skill, coloring concept
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for:30 minutes 

 Materials needed:watercolor from IKEA, small hand grip brushes 
What to do: teach her the concept of water painting then let her paint freely
Skills learned: Motor skill, color knowing and focusing
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for: 30 minutes

 Materials needed: Dropper taobao, 2 container with color water (i use kids friendly paint for the coloring) and 1 empty container to collect 
What to do: demo how to use a dropper, transfer color water to the empty container and see the result after 2 colors mixed together
Skills learned: Fine motor skill, color knowledge 
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for: 15 minutes

 Materials needed: Rounded label stickers, printed number with circles guide (let me know if you need the template) 
What to do: Stick the stickers according to the guide 
Skills learned: Focusing, number knowledge and fine motor skill
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for: 5 minutes

 Materials needed: Non-toxic Waterbeads from Tickle your senses , 2 container 1 filled with water and beads, spoon
What to do: Scooping beads to the empty container with the spoon 
Skills learned: Fine motor skill
Suitable age: Toddler 
Occupied Chloe for: 20 minutes 

Keep looking for this post i will try to keep it update
sometimes i’m just too lazy to take a proper photo when we are doing activities, but i will try my best.
Share with me too if you have some fun stuff to do with your toddler! 

5 Reasons Why I Quit Job to Be a Stay At Home Mom

This started with me dragging my feet back to work after maternity leave
from my 3 months maternity leave to 6 months then 9 months unpaid i decided this is it!
i want to be a Stay at Home Mum
we have no help here in Singapore and we could’t bear to send Chloe to childcare (#overlyattached)
i wanted to nurture my kids since the beginning
so i guess God granted my prayer
i always tell mum who asking for my advice that SAHM itself is a hardest job i had so far
long working hour, no MC, no OT, no salary and don’t talk about BONUS!
but the fulfillment of being a SAHM is what a normal job can’t provide
so let me list them down so i can constantly remind myself and be grateful
Guarantee money cannot buy!
from breastfeeding to sacrifice sleeps and spending time with your child
this is the best reward of all…
Chloe is very attached to me and Ming
every morning she would ask where is Papa? when i pick her up from her room or ask for Mama on weekend when daddy pick her up in the morning.
that’s kinda heartwarming coz she just love us equally and enjoy being with us
i guess it’s all worthy when she would randomly run to me for a hug or plant a kiss in the midst of playing..
as a person who spend most of time with her i know how to control her temper, how to stop her tantrum and know what she want and need
yes you may say we are overly attached but how long will a child attached to you?
cherish the moment when their world has only you and be irreplaceable to your child because you just can’t get this time back
To me early childhood is really important that’s when they shape up their personality and behavior
being a stay home i can really focus on her and be in touch with his emotional and physical milestones. I’m glad it was me and not a teacher or nanny who saw her sit up or laugh for the first time.
Home is where we learn whose we are. We’re not designed to journey through life alone. God created us to have relationship with Him. The most effective place for us to learn that is not so much at church — it’s at home! i wish i could teach her what right and wrong based on bible teaching before she enter school. People always say eventually they will learn something bad or fall sick from school or friends so why being so protective?Isn’t it that what a parent responsible to at least shape and nurture them as much as you can so they are armed when they entered the world. Yet in the first three years of life is when you shape their brain, their heart and mind! i wouldn’t say Chloe will ended up be a good person but at least i do my best.
i am able to spend time curating activities for my toddler to improve her motor skill, life skill and knowledge thru play! yes i want her to learn thru playing which we really want her to know that learning is fun is not boring or being forced to.
i’m drafting up a post of daily activities i do with Chloe at home!
the hardest part to let go is financially, with my salary we definitely live a better life
travel more? buy more and better toys and clothes for Chloe? buy a condo? buy a car?
but when i look back this so call “a better life” is not God favor or must
we are thankful that God provide Ming’s job with a salary that at least give a comfortable living
we still travel but not far, we still buy stuff for Chloe but average not the best things in store, hdb is not bad too and thanks for Grab, Uber and comfort and buses, a car is not necessarity for living in SG
You know what we’re actually spending less money of course right because we earn less what. This mean we actually doesn’t need that extra money that we thought it’s important.

However, I think i am becoming a better person because of it i spend money wisely now compare to when i’m working i indulge less in material. I am learning the difference between needs and wants on a daily basis of course still have room for improvement but i still learning to be better.

Also i’m constantly in amaze how God provides.
with who? haha of course with the husband!
i was the one who came out with the idea of quit the job he was all supportive from the very beginning, as we have no helps we rely on each other so so much..now i think we bond much better and grow better as a family
He is a very hands on daddy and husband, he helps on everything in the house (except he can’t cook, not complaining tho) when Chloe still young we always have the feeling that both of us is always on the same side fighting this battle dealing with sleep deprivation, a constantly crying baby and plenty of house chorus. Now i think we win this battle in one piece, now that Chloe sleep in her room we spend time catching up, watch a movie together. On and off when my mum come or we go home we will always sneak out for a dates, treasure the time even more and not taking each other for granted!
yes SAHM is boring sometimes especially you have to repeat daily task keeping the routine
when baby sleeps Hooray that “me time”!
at first i treasure all my me time by getting some house chores done, watch a drama, snack or a naps
slowly i thought why not start something? so i don’t waste those skills i gained from the pass few years and God send this opportunity of a friend of mine approached me for helping her part time in the company
Really God’s timing is always perfect!
and now i’ve been working from home for few hours everyday while Chloe sleep and naps.
perhaps i really enjoy it! I’m actually planing for a business too! i hope it work out.
Don’t get me wrong everything have its pro and cons! the biggest cons of SAHM is often feeling felt lost, without much identity kids losing socialization as they stay at home with you so much.
For me so far it’s rewarding, my baby is only a baby once and i don’t want to be regret the rest of life not spending enough time with them. As i adjust life as a stay-at-home mom, though, the rewards come to me on a daily basis. SAHM teaches me to be simple and humble. Still, life at home with the kids all the time can be frustrating.
But i am very sure that i’ll never regret being with them just about 24/7.
All in all, thanks God for His provides for that i could learn and gain above things.
This is a personal choice being SAHM doesn’t make me a better mum working mums has lot to scarifies too!
妈妈都是伟大的!