I should appreciate this space more, as i really enjoy reading back what i noted down over the years. I’m surprise i still get comments on and off from those who are reading tell me they enjoy reading what i written here or as me question on things that i mentioned, i thought this space is haunted long time ago that’s why i feel free and open to share my thoughts then any social media platform.
These days i stop posting anything in IG for some reason i choose to be quiet (there’s always this season of my life) get rid of all this influences from social media sometimes is a good detox. So basically i only interact with friends who care to text me personally get updates of each other on and off, that’s the real friendship i appreciate although my friend can count with one hand but as i grow older quality of friends over quantity.
Back to my little girl, recently i feel Chloe rather slow on eating meals and drinking her milk maybe that’s why she’s petite. Which sometimes can be very frustrating to us especially in the morning weird thing is she can finish her milk faster at night before sleep but not in the morning. Daddy who’s the one to bring her to school every morning got really stress up when she’s gonna be late for sure he is going to be late at work too. She’s on the smaller side so doctor say continue with her formula if not we should’ve abandon this milk thingy long ago. Luckily she go to school to have her breakfast if not it will take forever to leave the house.
We try to not rush her so much by waking her up earlier so she can slowly finish up her milk and leisurely walk to school. She is good in general but this eating and drinking is really something she need to improve. I always have meals with her we talked about school and everything while eating, when i’m done i used to wait for her to finish up her food which resulting meal time dragged way too long and i can be very impatient sometimes by feeding her or keep reminding her to eat up. So now i resorted that i should left the dining table by informing her once i finish my food i will left her concentrate on hers (luckily she never left her highchair before her bowl is empty if not that would be another set of problem), which works! she finished her food faster now (not very fast but at least faster) and proudly come to me showing her empty bowl. Finger crossed this works forever!
Ming’s and my parent commented both of us are not food lover since young hence our size so don’t expect Chloe to like food too. But i think that’s not the case is the mindset and the result of tradition weaning method that increase the picky eating behaviors, i am going to try BLW for sure for my next kid hopefully he/she will be more likely to develop positive interest in food and enjoy eating.
Finally got down to write this i know i promise many in ig for house tour but after moving in for 3 months, i really got lazy and no motivation to take any video or photos. Finally last week Chloe was asking me to take some of her photos (vain right? my daughter) since she’s at it must as well took so photos of her room.
Chloe’s room was previously a maid room with attached storeroom, we hack away the storeroom (which cause quite a lot of trouble PE, HDB inspection and all) but no regret it’s all worthy because she now have the biggest room in the house. Spacious enough to put in her toys so my living room look less clutter and colorful. We go with very simple finishing pale dusty pink paint for the feature wall with slim shelving that our carpenter generously do it FOC for us enhance it with a pastel pendant light then the rest of the wall is plain white and light wooden vinyl flooring.
Basically we didn’t add any furniture for her except a build-in wardrobe that would probably last her till she married? (too ambitious?) I want this room to grow with her so loose furniture that can easy move around or removed would be best option.
She spent a lot of time in her room maybe more than i do in my room so i guess a comfy and spacious place for her is important. Weird thing is that i seldom need to help tidy up her room, she will keep her things in place instead of scatter things around the floor. I’m quite happy with that at least she take care of her own belonging. Now she’s getting more and more independent young i started her take ownership of small tiny tasks — however small — as it helps them understand the importance of being independent, i don’t do everything for her because i’m not her maid. She need to learn that she’s part of this family so this house belong to her too, so the sense of belonging to this family is important for her to learn to also be responsible of everything related to this household.
Chloe is quite used to her routine. Everyday she come home from school, she will unpack her bag pass me her snacks box and bottle proceed to put her socks and outerwear to laundry bag then wash her hand without me telling her. After shower she will put on clothes herself walk out her room hang her wet towel and collect her dirty clothes to the laundry bag! She goes toilet herself without me helping or step in the toilet from sitting on the wc, flush the water then wash her hand. When it’s nap time she walked in her room draw her curtains climb on bed put on blanket all i need to do is hold her hand say good night darling left the room with few more words then close the door. Every night she have to clean up the mess she made eg tidying up her book in the living room before bed, basically she is in charge of her own things my job is to cook for her and make sure she’s fed. So far she will do things without complains or being asked to, even her grandparents are impressed when they saw these during their visit. Of course there’s still a lot more for her to learn, and we will do it together.
I always get a lot of comments from aunties and friends asking me why don’t we send her to childcare? she will be more independent! i usually keep quiet or change topic. Teaching kids to be independent isn’t it parent’s job? not because they are force to do so because of that environment but learning from heart how to take care of themselves and their belonging with parent’s guidance. I wish her become more independent in these basic areas of living, but still depend on me for love, protection, guidance, and support.
Rare Monday that I’m free in the afternoon while Chloe take her nap, as cny draw nearer that’s gonna be end of the peak season at my job. Gonna enjoy job-free weeks till mid of Feb!
It’s been a month since we moved in, unpacking was crazy and overwhelmed having to work, taking care of Chloe, house chores and cook at the same time I finally down with fever. My body need rest and remind me i ain’t superwomen. Juggling so many tasks the same time gives me big satisfaction when things turn out good as i expected it but I really need to slow things down, I need to take care of my body too.
I recovered pretty quick but I pass my virus to poor Chloe. She seldom sick when she does it’s always from me, sorry baby.
Back to #mkcrib its nearly 95% done! Just need to got the curtain hang up and some wall fixtures to be done but we shall leave that after cny. I don’t want them to collect dust when we are away. Speaking of cny this year quite no mood as we are so busy with the house we got nothing prepared! Just a few pieces of new clothes of each of us, that’s it 😖. I think this year marked the year we brought the less new year clothes even Chloe! Broke record she usually have new outfit till day 10 (at least) but this year only 3 and one pair of shoe because she outgrown most of her shoes. I’m not worry or gonna buy more actually, just play around with current and new outfit I think we are good. I really hope we are matching to minimalist lifestyle, I really do.